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I Believe in Halloween

I occasionally joke that Halloween is the only holiday of the year that I really, truly enjoy. That probably says more about my problems with a lot of other holidays (high expectations that are never met, the impossibility of making the magic happen at both church and home, etc.) but I do look forward to October 31st at least as much as my kids do. In a few more years, I have a feeling I'll be loving it even more than them.

Why? Over the past few years I've become more aware of the complicated feelings many Christians have about the holiday. Some are so turned off by the connection to the Rosa_the_mermaid occult that they refuse to participate entirely. Others make careful negotiations--no witches allowed, but its okay to dress as a princess. Others let their kids dive in head first, but watch it all with a great sense of unease, waiting for it to all be over.

And in response, other Christians argue that Halloween is a ritual that has become detached from any pagan or dark-spirited roots it once had. It's "just" fun, it really means nothing, so participating shouldn't be any big deal.

But I for one want to participate in Halloween, not because it means nothing, but because I really believe in the values that lie underneath it. It don't think the core values of Halloween glorify practitioners of dark magic. I believe in Halloween because:

1. I believe in walking around your neighborhood, knocking on doors and chatting with your neighbors. I don't do this nearly enough, and I love the fact that on one night of the year, it's not only okay, it's expected. I love the idea that behind each door there is a neighbor waiting for me and my kids with a treat. Okay, so this year, some of my neighbors on Good Lion Road, Columbia (I will resist the urge to list house numbers) weren't exactly prepared for us, but at least most of them opened the door and chatted and admired the kids' costumes. Having interacted once makes it so much easier to say hi again the next time we meet, and before you know it, we're building community.

2. I believe in talking to kids. I know that kids aren't supposed to talk to strangers--just like every other parent I know, I've drilled that one into my kids' heads. But on Halloween, with me and Dan standing nearby, my kids talk to every stranger they meet. And the strangers talk to them--admiring their creativity or bravery, cracking jokes, expressing concern about their safety and their diet. Before you know it, these people aren't exactly strangers anymore. Before you know it, they are people who my kids are allowed to talk to, encouraged to talk to. And that's just on Halloween night itself. I've noticed that a lot of adults use Halloween as a conversation starter for a good month before the event. "Are you going out for Halloween this year? What are you going to dress up as?" That's good small talk. And most adults I know have at least one story from their own experience of Halloween that kids would really get a kick out of hearing.

3. I believe in facing what scares you. At the heart of the Christian gospel is the promise that life is about more than the avoidance of pain or discomfort, and that at the other side of our greatest fears is God's greatest promise. That may sound like a bit more meaning than dressing up as a zombie deserves, but I think there is a relationship between that promise and the rituals of Halloween. My kids are--even at their advanced age--still a bit scared of ghouls and ghosts and aliens. So why not take on that persona for a night and laugh at it? Why not walk around in a group and delight in seeing a vampire on your own street? I can hardly think of a better way to confront a fear. Halloween, in this regard, is really good practice for life.

What am I missing? Are there other reasons YOU love Halloween?

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Heather Kirk-Davidoff

This is a demonstration comment. See, it's not that hard!

Bonnie Personett

Heather, you make some good points. I intend to comment as soon as I finish eating all of the left over Halloween candy. That actually might be the only thing I like about Halloween.....

Tracy A Wade

You make it seem inviting again. I remember feeling that way as a child going out on a cold Halloween night in my youth. I remember the excitement, the acknowledgement of adults, the protection of my parents.

But then, it was while I was a child that someone took it into his head to put razor blades in apples. It was an introduction to real evil for me.

My reality of evil sort of escalated after that - and it really had nothing to do with witches or goblins at all. As a matter of fact, I enjoy reading , watching or hearing stories about witches, sorcerers and such. It wasn’t a witch but a real person who put the razor in the apple, just like a real person tampered with the Tylenol capsules several years later, and just like real people flew a plane into the World Trade Center in 2001, and then some more did it again right afterward.

I used to love Halloween too. I really don’t blame the day for the evil in the world. I just remember that for me, that is when my first experience with evil happened.

Anne Yenchko

It's been a long time since I thought about all of the reasons why Halloween is celebratory. I used to love seeing the kids come around and really enjoyed talking to the trick and treaters. This year I felt compelled to join in the celebration at the school where I work and found just a few things in my closet that added up to a "costume". The children loved it and it added richness to our conversations together, but the reaction of the parents was very interesting. They did double takes and then laughed. They didn't know me and then knew me. It was like the thesis and antithesis all in one. And it helped me to deal with a parent of a kindergartener who came an hour late to pick up her 5 year old and with whom I could talk honestly without recrimination. Amazing what humor and an unexpected appearance will do to facilitate communication.

Sandy Queen

I loved Halloween as a child, and then, somehow, it lost its glow....But then, last night I went out with my grandchildren to trick or treat in a neighborhood near where they live...There are some 300 townhomes in this neighborhood, and all but about 25 of them were totally decked out in lights, and smoke and spiderwebs.Residents sat outside their homes talking to kids and handing out BOXES of candy (and one family had BOXES of fortune cookies!!!!).and over 1000 kids from babies to teens, and their parents (and grandparents) were out in what can only be deemed a Giant Old Fashioned Block Party! It truly a celebration of what the fun and innocence of the day used to be for me and still is for my grandbabies....It was a pleasant reminder .....

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